It’s hard to separate the wheat from the chaff, if you will, when you’re giving online dating a go. In my experience, finding a good guy on free Over 50 dating sites a dating app is hard- a bit of a needle in a haystack situation. I sourced outside help in the quest of tracking down a nice dude online, and I found just the right person for the job: dating, relationship and lifestyle expert Steven Ward. He and his matchmaker mom created Love Lab, a new app designed to take the misrepresentation out of the online dating equation; he is also CEO of Master Matchmakers, a high-end dating service.
Though there’s no fool-proof way to steer clear of misogynists, players, and lowlifes while dating online, there are some giveaways that the guy whose profile you’re peeping is a normal person — and maybe even a nice guy. These giveaways do not include terrible shirtless pics, insane rants about nothing and photos of a dude surrounded by, like, Cristal, scantily-clad ladies and a few Bengal tigers. There’s no way of guaranteeing that you’ll avoid the worst of what dating apps have to offer, but there are a few things that are the opposite of red flags — green flags? — to keep in mind as you swipe your way through the dating pool.
This is a good one, and one that definitely didn’t occur to me when I was dating online. «When a man talks about family, friends, civic, social or philanthropic endeavors, he isn’t totally self-centered,» says Ward. «Be wary of the man who only talks about himself.»
It’s so easy to do just that in a dating profile — after all, that’s what they ask you to do, pretty much: What’s your job? What’s your sign? What’s your favorite song? A man who answers these questions but also takes the time to talk about others is displaying that he doesn’t care only about himself. That said, be wary if he doesn’t say anything about himself — he could be deflecting his own weirdness by shouting out the ones in his life who are less weird, aka other people.